CONFIDENCE: 20 Pieces of Advice For My Younger Self...
Recently, I wrote a list of 20 pieces of advice I wish I could give my younger self back when I was in high school year. I wanted to share them with you all in hopes that it helps you too...
If I could go back, the first piece of advice I would tell my younger self at the start of a new school year is to remember that you are not your grades. Your self worth cannot be quantified and measured against a number or grade on a test. How you perform is dependent on a lot of different factors, and it should never effect how you see yourself as a person.
Also, remember that each test and exam is only a part of your overall academic journey
If you fail a test, that doesn’t make you dumb. It just means you need to change up your study approach and ask for more help, and maybe it might just take you a little longer until the information finally clicks and makes sense.
With each year comes more work. It might not seem like much but the benefits are significant, so use a diary so you don’t feel so overwhelmed by everything
And if you get stressed or burnt out, which everybody does from time to time, remember that it’s ok not to do it all. Do your best and know that you’re a human being, not a human doing.
This one’s a must. Always prioritize your mental health and wellbeing. No test, exam, or assignment is more important than your mental health
Learn to practice mindfulness and breathing every day. It really does help you to not feel so overwhelmed, especially before tests
Although it can feel like it sometimes, life isn’t a competition, even if some of your classmates make it feel like it is. Focus on yourself, stay in your lane and if you’re going to compete with anyone, make sure it’s yourself.
The world is much bigger than the students in your class, your year and your school so don’t lose perspective of the world around you
You don’t have to do everything on your own. Study with friends because you end up being each others’ biggest supports. Your grades will thank you for it too!
Don’t forget to make time for your hobbies and to practice self care. You’re running a marathon, not a race, so pace yourself and remember to give yourself a break
Never leave anything to the last minute. It is never a good idea!
This goes for anything really but quality over quantity. Better to have a few close friends who accept you as you are, than try to fit in and not really belong.
Being busy isn’t the same as being productive. The more you study, does not mean the better your grades will be! Take a break when you get tired and don’t push yourself so hard.
Get outdoors more and exercise. It’s one of the best ways to reduce stress and give your mind a break from all your student responsibilities.
Perfection is unsustainable. We are all perfectly imperfect, so aim to do your best but don’t aim to be perfect all the time. it's a construct that doesn’t exist.
You don’t have to have your entire life figured out, or even your 10-year plan in place. Focus on giving your attention to the present moment and know that things will sort themselves out and clarity will come
If you do have your 10-year plan in place, be flexible. Things change. You change. Your passion will change. It’s ok and it’s also normal
Set yourself intentions for the year ahead. Decide what you want to get out of this school year. Push and challenge yourself to get out of your comfort zone and achieve your goals
Asking for help is a sign of strength and maturity. Whether its help with your studies or a problem at school, don’t be afraid to speak up and confide in your teachers, counsellors, parents or friends. Always remember that you are never alone.
What’s one piece of advice you’d give your younger self?